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The results of my biopsy were good. NO CANCER HERE YAYYYYYYYY.

I DID NOT WRITE THIS ONE BUT I LOVE IT!

"What is in your Cup?"
A friend had this on her wall and I had to share it with you! I love this analogy:
You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere.
Why did you spill the coffee? "Because someone bumped into me!!!"
Wrong answer.
You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. Whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out.
Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which WILL happen), whatever is inside you will come out.
It's easy to fake it, until you get rattled. So we have to ask ourselves... “what's in my cup?" (Answer for yourself, Below)
When life gets tough, what spills over?
Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility?
Anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions?
Life provides the cup, YOU choose how to fill it.
Today let's work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy,
words of affirmation; and kindness, gentleness and love for others.

THERE IS A DULE MAN HOLE COVER IN FRONT OF MY HOUSE NEAR A FIRE HYDREN AND ONE OF THE COVERS IS ROTTED THROUGH. i HAVE BEEN TRYING FOR 2 YEARS TO FIND OUT WHO OWND IT AND HOW TO GET IT FIXED BEFORE SOMEONE GETS HURT ON IT. THE PROBLEM IS NO ONE WILL CLAIM IT! THE LOCATION IS IN A GREY AREA. ON TOP OF THE FRAME AROUND IT IT SAYS CITY INLET 2. THIS AREA USED TO BE PART OF THE CITY BUT WAS REZONED TO BALLANCE THE SCHOOL DISTRICTS. SO EVEN THOUGHT IT SAYS CITY INLET 2 IT NOW IS ADJASON TO A TOUWNSHIP ROAD. THAT ROAD RUNS THROUGH THE MIDDLE OF A GOVERNMENT HOUSING PROJECT.
SP FAR I HAVE CONTACTED THE HOUSING AUTHORITY, THE CITY , THE TOWNSHIP, THE SEWAGE DEPARTMENT, THE WATER DEPARTMENT, THE ROADS DEPARTMENT, AND ONE OF THE NEWS AGENCYS AND NO ONE CAN TELL ME WHO OWNS THIS COVER OR HOW I CAN GET IT FIXED BEFORE SOMEONE GETS HURT. SOMEONE FROM THE ROAD DEPARTMENT PUT AN ORANGE CONE ON IT NEARLY 2 YEARS AGO WITH THE PROMISE TO LET SOMEONE KNOW IT NEEDED FIXED. tHE CONE DOES NOT STAY PUT IN THE HIGH WINDS WE HAVE HAD THIS YEAR, AND ONE OF MY NEIGHBORS TURNED THE CONE UPSIDE DOWN IN THE LARGE HOLE THAT HAS ROTTED. iT WENT INSIDE THE HOLE 3 INCHES DEEP.
THIS NEEDS FIXED AND I HAVE NO CLUE WHO TO REPORT IT TO NEXT. IF ANYONE CAN HELP ME OUT WITH THIS PLEASE LET ME KNOW BEFORE SOMEONE GETS HURT.

One of the best lines in A Christmas Carol is when Bob Cratchet asks his wift to drink to Mr Scrooges health and she says, I WILL DO IT FOR YOU SAKE AND THE SAKE OF THE SEASON. I realized tonight that many people do and say things at Christmas that they would not normaly do, just so someone else may be happier. Which is over all not a bad thing, but at what cost to their own mental help?
I will give you an example. I have a nephew who moved out of state because he got a GREAT JOB about a year ago, so he only fomes home once or twice a year. Then he spends more time with the friends he left behing then with his family that miss him a lot, I know this because, I am one of the people that miss him. We want him to have a nice visit, so even thought we would rather he spend more time with us , we do not give him a hard time about it FOR THE SAKE OF THE SEASON. We all get the wanting to spend time with frinds you have not seen in a while, but I personally think the time should be devided a bit mor evenly between friends and family,but i keep it to myself FOR THE GOOD OF THE SEASON.
Friend s get tied up in their own lives shat they want and what makes them happy this time of year with no time for me and I pretend it does not hurt , because I want them to be happy even if my feeilings are hurt. I want them to be happy even if I feel neglected inside by what they do FOR THE GOOD OF THE SEASON.
I have already gotten a few nice presents for Christmas, and a couple were expensive. Thing is what I would rather have is a family gathering for christmas we have not been able to have one sense this covid crap started, and this year my neice has covid,and my sister fell and will be in a recovery home for at least a couple weeks :( My sisters and brother are getting older and I like to see them as much as I can. My oldest sister used to visit me every holiday, but with the health issues she and her huaband have I hardly ever see them anymore. My sister that is in a rehab place for her knee is on oxygen so even when she is well she does not go many places but to dializes, and she NEVER says I love you to me even though i say it to her every time. One I love you from her would be more valuable then a hundred dollar present to me. She does buy really nice presents. That may her way of showing love, but I would much rather ACTUALLY HERE her say it atleast once before one of us die.
I will be glad after the first of the year December is always hard for me, has been sense my Grandpa died on Christmas morning 1969.

Often times people do not understand me. If they read this article i found perhaps you may:
Signs That You're An Empath
By Health Prep Staff
Do you often just instinctively know how a complete stranger is feeling? Have you frequently noticed someone else's feelings seem to have 'rubbed off' on to you? Perhaps you are someone who seems to feel every emotion extremely profoundly, even if its something simple. These are all signs you are an empath. An empath is someone highly sensitive to what others around them are feeling. Often, empaths aren't even aware of their heightened sensitivity. If you suspect you may be an empath, here are the signs of empathetic abilities you probably have experienced at some point .
Highly Intuitive
An empath is a highly intuitive individual, and they seem to just know things. Not specific things or actions, but more like the emotions surrounding them. If an individual has had a rough past, an empath will be able to pick up on past hurt and pain, and if someone has an optimistic future, an empath will be able to sense the hope and excitement. If someone is in love, the empath can sense it immediately. The individual often doesn't have to say or do anything to tip off an empath, who can simply feel the vibes coming from others.
Naturally Helpful
Because empaths are so in tune with feelings, they often want to help others as much as possible. They can sense when someone needs help and the gratitude of an individual when they are being helped. Whether consciously or subconsciously, this gratitude tends to be motivation for an empath to continue to help others so they can experience the gratuitous feeling over and over. Being naturally helpful and experiencing the feeling that goes with it can bring a sense of harmony and peace to the world. All empaths secretly desire for the whole world to be in a feeling of harmony and peace.
Highly Observant
Empaths could make great private detectives because they notice and observe everything even without realizing they are doing it. An empath can glance at an individual and observe their clothing, hairstyle, makeup, and tell exactly what motivated them to dress that way. The highly observant empath pays attention to minor details such as the color of an individual's buttons, the way someone smiles, or the notes of a lovely scent. They may notice a co-worker suddenly working more or less. More importantly, empaths can sense how these things make someone feel. No matter how much someone tries to hide their feelings, an empath can observe things about that person and just instantly know what emotions are in their head.
Naturally Sensitive
Being naturally sensitive is one of the main traits of an empath, as it is what allows them to pick up on how others are feeling. However, being naturally sensitive can also be a bit of a nuisance in an empath's life. Until empaths learn to control their ability, being naturally sensitive can rule the empath's own emotions. For example, if someone is extremely sad, an empath can become extremely sad also, and may even cry and feel worse than the other person does. Because of this sensitivity, many empaths take on the weight of the world when terrible things happen. It can sometimes be very overwhelming for them.
Empathetic And Compassionate
Have you ever heard someone say, "I know how you feel?" Well if an empath says this to you, they actually mean it. Empaths can pick up on almost any emotion, so by the time they have reached a certain age they have experienced almost every emotion in the book. This means empaths can be a lot more understanding and compassionate than most individuals because they know what it feels like to be dealing with the same types of feelings. They can also sense a person's genuine intentions, so this makes them even more empathetic and compassionate than others.
Crowds Are Often Overwhelming
Individuals with intuitive empathy can often be overwhelmed by crowds. The huge amount of noise and conflicting emotions can lead to a feeling of sensory overload. It might be difficult to stay centered and grounded when around crowds, and you may feel 'lost' in the emotions of others. Individuals who exhibit this sign may have difficulty in places like malls, airports, sporting events, parades, and other areas that have many people. One thing that may help when dealing with crowds is to focus on your own internal emotions. Rather than letting the feelings of others influence you, you should pay attention to what's happening in your own head.
Negativity Is Overwhelming
Empaths often find negativity is overwhelming. Some individuals develop intuitive empathy as a result of growing up in volatile home environments, which can make them even more sensitive to negative atmospheres. Other people tend to have varying tolerance levels for anger, conflict, and raised voices. However, empaths have little to no tolerance for these things. Negative atmospheres can have a detrimental effect, leading empaths to feel anxious, nauseous, and like they're in pain. They might crave a calm, peaceful environment. Many empaths take on an appeasing role in their social relationships, whether that be romantic relationships, relationships with children, friendships, or work relationships. They may sacrifice their own point of view or desires to keep from troubling the waters.
Low Pain Tolerance
If you're an empath, you may have a low pain tolerance, which means it's harder for you to deal with physical pain than for others. Dealing with minor injuries, feeling nauseated, and getting shots are all experiences that can make you feel stressed and overwhelmed. You might even have had doctors express surprise that you experience pain or discomfort with normally-painless procedures. For some individuals with intuitive empathy, doctor's offices and hospitals can send their senses into overdrive because they're picking up on the fear and discomfort of the people surrounding them. Empaths may also feel faint when they get injured or have to deal with pain.
Easy To Spot Lies
Empaths often find it quite easy to spot lies. They might also be more sensitive about the truth. Many intuitive empaths get extremely upset when they or their loved ones are lied to. Even well-meaning white lies or lies of omission can be upsetting. Empaths notice lies because they pick up on the subconscious emotional cues of those around them. When they're attuned to what a person is feeling and how they communicate, falsehoods and discrepancies become much more apparent. Empaths typically prefer to have proof of facts rather than taking others at face value. They may be sensitive because of having been lied to in the past.
More Sensitive To Medications
Many empaths report being more sensitive to medications than the average person. This often means they might also have a high sensitivity to stimulants. While others can't get by without a morning cup of coffee, caffeine may make you feel agitated and anxious if you are an empath. If you have caffeine in the afternoon or evening, you won't be able to sleep at night. You may find you have frequent side effects or intolerant reactions to different medications. Instead of being able to manage average prescribed doses, empaths may only be able to take a fraction of the medicine without experiencing side effects. This can make it difficult to find medications that work for any number of conditions, both temporary and chronic.